Daily Prompt: What’s the best (or rather, worst) backhanded compliment you’ve ever received? If you can’t think of any — when’s the last time someone paid you a compliment you didn’t actually deserve?
Backhanded compliments come in all shapes and sizes, but for me most of the ones I get have to do with my hair. My hair is extremely curly. People have often asked me “Why don’t you wear your hair straight?” Like I can change my hair like people change their shirts. It’s not quite that easy to make my curly hair straight, but I do use a flat iron and straighten it sometimes. The backhanded compliments still come: “WOW! Your hair looks so good this way…you look ten years younger…I love your hair, why don’t you wear it like this all the time?…
Truth is, it took me a long time to figure out what to do with my unruly mane of curls. Years of trying to have straight hair like everyone else back in the 80s when big hair was the thing, if only I’d known back then what I know now, I’d have been rocking my mane. Instead I was trying to wear hairstyles that were simply not going to work for someone with thick, curly hair.
People who have straight hair want curly hair, people who have curly hair want straight hair, people with thick hair wish it was at least a little thinner, people with thin hair wish it was thicker…Truthfully, I’ve had people tell me my curls are beautiful and not to straighten my hair, and there are those who think the opposite. All of the pictures above were taken over the past 4 years. And just so we know what my hair looks like currently here are a few pics… I’ve quit coloring my hair… Letting the white streak grow uut… I’m tired of coloring my hair, besides my husband thinks the white streak is sexy…
And this is me now…The one on the left was taken yesterday, the one on the right was taken the day before… Same me, just different hairstyles… So you tell me…My hair is a good bit longer when it’s straight, but it’s still me…And I’m one rocking, 47 year old grandma…
On Sunday, January 19th, I went out on the road with my husband for a week. He’s a truck driver and he does this every week. Different places most of the time since he’s an Over the Road truck driver (OTR), but sometimes he goes to the same places. This week we went from Columbia, SC to Florence, SC, and then back to Columbia, SC then stopped at Kenly, NC on our way to Greensboro, NC. THen thru the Gorge in Saluda, NC and then on into to TN headed towards Kentucky. From Kentucky we went to West Virginia (through the mountains) and then Maryland. From there we went to Pennsylvania then back through Maryland to get to Richmond, VA. Then back towards NC. Again we stopped at Kenly, NC on our way home to SC. The only state that wasn’t covered in white was SC. North Carolina had snow, how much was dependent on where in NC.
I’ve been working on my outline, my 3 act structure outline, and so far it’s going. I’m still a pantser at heart, because I’m already writing chapter 4 and I haven’t even finished the damn outline. LOL! I’ve realized I’m never going to be one of those people who has a full outline done before I start the actual writing process. In the midst of researching the 3-act structure outline and related information I found a very helpful book. The Story Template: Conquering Writer’s Block using the Universal Structure of a Story. I really like it so far. It’s been quite helpful, plus it has examples from various books and movies that help you visual what the writer is talking about. (Well, for me it’s visual because I imagine the scene from the book or movie…)
I’ve also been suffering from a sinus infection so between doses of severe allergy and sinus medication, drinking a lot of fluids, and watching my 1 year grandson while my daughter works, what writing I’ve been able to accomplish has been for my book so I haven’t really been able to blog the past few days. What kind of $h#t is that? Make a blog and post once and then days go by before you post again…WTH!!! I know, but I’m working on all of this one thing at a time, one day at a time. Right now the 1 yr old grandson and writing my book take priority over the blog, etc. He’ll be in daycare during the week in a couple of weeks so my weekdays will be mine again then. YAY! (I’ll say this, I had a hell of a lot more energy back when my children were young and I was in my early and mid-20’s than I do now at 46). Gotta go, it’s time for his snack 😀 (and mine too!)
- Pantser? Plotter? Shrug. (parkinglotconfessional.com)
- On Writing: Outline Disadvantage Discovered (thinkinglazy.wordpress.com)